Updated: Mar 10, 2022
As a wedding and event professional, I often encounter issues stemming from four simple letters, "R.S.V.P"!
First, let's discuss what "RSVP" stands for. "RSVP" is a French phrase which stands for, "Répondez s'il vous plaît". In English, that means "Answer Please" or "Respond Please" or "Please Respond". Either way you put it, YOU NEED TO RESPOND!
But why bother responding?! I mean, they know you are coming right? You are family so that means you will automatically be there! You are good friends so you wouldn't miss their very important event! You have worked together for years so they should know you will be there! Oh and they should also automatically know that you were kind enough to invite a few more people they didn't send an invitation to correct? WRONG, WRONG and did I mention, WRONG!
No worries, I will explain why it is so very important to actually respond to a "RSVP". It doesn't matter how close you are to them or how long you have known a person, you should always, "Répondez s'il vous plaît" to their invitation when required. What's the big deal you ask? Well, chances are if you have received an invitation requesting a "RSVP" then your loved one has put together an event more on the formal side.
The venue, or place where they will host their event, will set up a specific amount of tables and chairs. The caterers, or people who will provide food, will only provide enough plates and food for a specific amount of people. Your loved ones have budgeted and saved their money for the event. But the money your loved ones spend will only cover a specific amount of guests. They have decided who they want to invite and who's invitations will be "missing in the mail"! When you receive an invitation with a "RSVP" section, this is your loved ones way of getting a final count of who will be there so they will purchase the correct amount of meals and make sure you have a comfortable place to sit and relax to enjoy that meal.
Don't expect anyone to read your mind and assume that you will be there. "RSVP" and let them know either way if you do or don't plan to attend. If you don't "RSVP" and just show up, please don't complain about not having a place to sit or there not being enough food. And if you "RSVP" and don't show up, just know that your loved one spent their money for you to be there and now their money has been wasted on something that could have been spent elsewhere. I am not referring to those last minute emergencies that we can't control. You KNOW WHO YOU ARE! And DO NOT bring someone with you unless you have gotten an "all clear" from the event host.
Bottom line, not sending a RSVP is equivalent to saying, "No I am not coming to your subpar event that falls beneath my superior level of existence and I shalt not acknowledge your peasant paper with a response"! Okay okay, that is a stretch but you get what I am saying! Make sure you "RSVP"! LOL!
Thank you for reading! XOXO